Sex shop employees answer, “Does size matter?”

Dildos are prominently on display at Spanky's sex shop in Santa Ana. (Denisse Hobson / Lariat)

Dildos are prominently on display at Spankys Adult Emporium, which was selected in 2011 by OC Weekly as the “Best Sex Shop” in Orange County. (Denisse Hobson / Lariat)

Does a man’s penis size correlate with the level of pleasure women get during sex? Earlier this year, in an article published by the British newspaper, The Sun, in which they conducted a worldwide survey, the results showed the answer to be yes. However, what women gage as men’s average and ideal penis length, compared to what the actual statistics are, showed that the heightened perception in media, and porn in particular, make for a skewed answer.

“As we’ve found, most men continue to show satisfaction with their size, and most women don’t consider size to be a crucial issue,” the study stated.

Spanky Adult Emporium in Santa Ana was given the title of "Best Sex Shop" by OC Weekly in 2011. (Denisse Hobson / Lariat)

Spanky Adult Emporium in Santa Ana was given the title of “Best Sex Shop” by OC Weekly in 2011. (Denisse Hobson / Lariat)

For two employees at Spankys Adult Emporium in Santa Ana, California, their personal opinion is “no,” however their costumers may disagree.

“It doesn’t matter, because you can work with whatever situation you have,” said Abigail Midden, an aspiring sex therapist. “The g-spot is only within 2-inches.”

Nonetheless, her experience with what she sees in her work field is that for most customers it does matter. When women in particular shop for toys, such as dildos, their preference is based on size, Midden said.

“Based off from movies, guys tend to think that the average penis size is huge, so they come in here looking at toys, and realize that not every guy has a 10-inch penis,” said Lito Valencia, a part time employee.

In the United States alone, the average penis size is 5.6 inches long when erect, according to a study published by The Journal of Sexual Medicine in July.

Girls come in shopping for the averages sizes but often times end up getting the larger ones, Valencia said. This phenomenon can be attributed to porn and its effects on women perception. Misrepresenting the notion of what to expect a man’s penis size or performance to be.

“In porn girls do stuff that not every girl would actually do,” Valencia said.

According to Pornhub, the most popular porn site in the world, earlier this August women searched the term “dick,” 122 percent more than men did. Words such as, “big black dick,” “big dick” and “monster cock” rank amongst some of the highest searched terms by women.

Coincidently, Pornhub launched an environmental campaign called, “Pornhub Gives America Wood,” planting trees for every 100 videos viewed within the “big dick,” category of videos. This resulted in 15,473 trees being planted, meaning 1,547,300 videos viewed in one-day pertaining big dicks.

What porn elicits is a fantasy.

“It’s up to us to choose to make it a reality or not,” Midden said.

Most who shop at Spankys are anywhere as young as 18 and as old as 70, mostly couples. Needless to say they come across new customers everyday, from dancers looking for lingerie, to curious individuals wanting to broaden their knowledge about what it entails to walk into a sex shop.

Whilst it may be a notion that females drag their boyfriends into Spankys, it’s actually the other way around.

“More times it ends up being the guy, wanting to experiment more,” Valencia said, but girlfriends and wives sometimes become more comfortable and eventually show up without their partner.

In order to promote safe sexual practices and experimentations Spankys has begun to host couple’s night, in which they give couples the proper instructions to using sex toys as well as the proper way to clean and care for them.

The statistics provided by Pornhub, and the anecdotes provided by Spankys employees, make for plausible proof.

“I would say that it doesn’t matter how open you are, people are vulnerable,” Midden said. “Sex is something that’s still so taboo, but it’s pushed in our face. It’s part of who we are. There is something for everyone.”