Childhood shown to influence dating habits

Janelle Green

In my high school psychology class, I was informed that men hunt for women who are royally messed up in the head. Whether they have “daddy issues”, a broken home, or a horrific past, men want a chick who has problems.

The psych teacher devoted several weeks defending the obscene schemes that are plotted subconsciously by the “typical man”. He made a point to make eye contact with every future or recent victim-the girls- as if to warn them of the destined pain and heartache that would soon reside in their lives.

One day, the teacher asked my girlfriend, who was constantly struggling with her boyfriend of the week, what her type was.

“I date a lot of different types of guys,” she responded, and she should have stopped there because then she stated blatantly, “I especially like a guy who takes care of me when I’m sick, makes me laugh, helps me when I need it, and pays for me.”

The teacher’s response? ” Right. Someone like your father.” Ew. The class was officially disturbed.

As he continued to preach about the reasons why women date men who resemble the father figures in their lives, I compared my exes, and sure enough, they all reminded me of someone who I wish they did not. I decided then and there that I was screwed considering my biological father was a cheat, my step-dad was a drunk, both of my brothers are sexist jocks, and the majority of my ten uncles are all lazy, racists who still live at home with my grandparents.

Apparently, when a girl has “daddy issues” as my guy friends tend to refer to them, it lowers the bar for the boyfriend. They don’t have to treat their girl like a princess because her father treats her like crap. There’s no need to pay for her because she probably doesn’t expect that from a guy anyway. Bologna.

That’s not to say that women aren’t to blame for sending out obvious signs of a problematic childhood or an abusive past, but the fact that men feed upon such traumatizing incidents and intentionally take advantage of the emotionally unbalanced is morbid.

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